tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-62693146536064156012024-02-20T03:26:17.666-05:00EmoshuNewsPublished by Emoshuns.com - EMOSHUNS Wants You to "Feel Better, Look Better, Take Back Your Life!"emoshuns.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15172287407070200635noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6269314653606415601.post-13220254201720723752007-04-16T06:44:00.000-05:002007-04-25T13:40:07.408-05:00"Catch On" - Volume II Issue 9<span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:times new roman;">EmoshuNewsletter - Monday, April 16, 2007</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">emoshuns.com provides emotional healthcare services in Manhattan, Brooklyn,and Long Island, as well as by telephone and e-mail nationwide. </span><a style="font-weight: bold; font-family: times new roman;" href="http://www.emoshuns.com/">See our web<br />site</a><span style="font-family:times new roman;"> or call us for more information.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:times new roman;" >Hi Everyone!</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">I hope this edition of our EmoshuNewsletter finds you well!</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Occasionally, counseling issues I address with my clients parallel issues I'm experiencing in my own life. When this happens I make every effort to</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">examine and address the situation so I can continue my personal growth and continue to provide the best for those in my care.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Some of the tools I use to examine (and hopefully "fix") these things include speaking with my own emotional healthcare counselor, discussing it with my healthy friends, kicking it around with Olga, and sharing it with you in the EmoshuNews Letter so you can offer your thoughts through the </span><span style="font-family:times new roman;">emoshuns.com <a style="font-weight: bold;" href="http://emoshuns.com/econtact.php">contact page</a>. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">So here's the situation....</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Several of my client's and I are struggling to "<span style="font-weight: bold;">slow down"</span>. We find ourselves moving a thousand miles an hour in an effort to "catch up". We work long hours, fill our plates with things to do, "multi-task", and look to always add "more". </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">And when we're asked why we're moving so fast, we answer:</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">"I wasted so much time already"</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">"I only have so much time left to become successful"</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">"I want to be able to retire with x amount of money in my 401k"</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">And so on, and so on.......</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">And in this fear-based process we find ourselves having to sacrifice things we "would love to do", in order to accomplish things "we have to do". We find ourselves struggling with stress, depression, and anger, instead of experiencing the joys of life. We end up destroying our relationships with our loved ones and our friends instead of experiencing the ecstasy of love. We find ourselves bewildered, lost and alone, instead of sharing our lives with others. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">And ultimately we find ourselves sad and miserable instead of happy, contented, and in peace.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">So in this edition of the newsletter I offer what was offered to me by several of those in my inner circle: </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">From my friend <span style="font-weight: bold;">Dr. Steve</span>..."there is a law of diminishing returns Frank. If you try and accomplish too much, you'll end up accomplishing nothing".</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">From my friend <span style="font-weight: bold;">Rob the Jeweler</span>..."slow down and enjoy the ride. You're only here once"</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">And, what I think was the best advice of all, came from my girl <span style="font-weight: bold;">Olga</span>...</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;"> "<span style="font-weight: bold; color: rgb(51, 51, 255);">Don't try to catch up, try and catch on</span>"</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">And so if you find yourself in this situation, speak with your inner circle. Speak with your emotional healthcare counselor, kick it around with you loved ones, and think about the advice I got from my team.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">And if you have been in this situation before but have found a way to address it, share it with us through the <a href="http://emoshuns.com/econtact.php">contact page</a></span><span style="font-family:times new roman;">.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Until next time....stay well and enjoy the ride!</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;"><br /><a href="http://www.emoshuns.com"><span style="font-weight: bold;">Frank</span></a></span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">E-Mail: info@emoshuns.com </span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Web Site: www.emoshuns.com </span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Toll-Free: 888-WANNA TALK</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Emoshuns.com - "Look Better, Feel Better, Take Back Your Life!"</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Tell your family and friends about EmoshuNews!</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">To subscribe</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Send a blank message to: news-subscribe@emoshuns.com</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">To unsubscribe</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Send a blank e-mail address to: news-unsubscribe@emoshuns.com</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;"></span></span>emoshuns.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15172287407070200635noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6269314653606415601.post-27303767999383670842007-03-15T06:58:00.000-05:002007-04-25T13:40:26.433-05:00"Sharing" - Volume II Issue 8<span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:times new roman;">EmoshuNews – Friday, March 15, 2007</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Emoshuns.com provides services and resources to help families and individuals “Feel Better, Look Better, Take Back Your Life!”</span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:times new roman;" >Hello Everyone,</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">I was browsing on-line and came across a </span><a style="font-weight: bold; font-family: times new roman;" href="http://www.samhsa.gov/">SAMHSA</a><span style="font-family:times new roman;"> web page asking for personal stories of those who are recovering from emotional healthcare problems and realized how rewarding that could be. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Emotionally rewarding and hope-producing for those currently experiencing problems, and rewarding for those of us recovering from an emotional health problem who get to share our recovery with others. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">After all…”you can only keep what you have by giving it away!” </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">So what I’m doing this issue is inviting you to share your story of recovery and hope and I’ll publish it in a future issue of the EmoshuNews letter (maybe even the next issue!). </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Make it as long or as short as you want. I’ll either edit it to fit or I’ll run it as is. Other than that there are no guidelines. </span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;"> </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">It’s all about you!</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;"> </span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:times new roman;" >So start writing!! </span><span style="font-family:times new roman;"> And when you’re done, send it to me either through the convenient contact page or by email at </span><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:times new roman;" >Frank@emoshuns.com</span><span style="font-family:times new roman;">.</span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Til next time,</span><br /><br /><a href="http://www.emoshuns.com"><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:times new roman;" >Frank</span></a><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">E-Mail: editor@emoshuns.com - Toll-Free: (800) 983-3050 - Web: www.emoshuns.com</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Emoshuns.com - "Look Better, Feel Better, Take Back Your Life!"</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Tell your family and friends about EmoshuNews!</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">To subscribe, send a blank message to: news-subscribe@emoshuns.com</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">To unsubscribe, send a blank e-mail address to: news-unsubscribe@emoshuns.com</span></span>emoshuns.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15172287407070200635noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6269314653606415601.post-67283627601481701162007-03-05T06:53:00.000-05:002007-04-25T13:40:49.500-05:00"Understand" - Volume II Issue 7<span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:times new roman;">EmoshuNewsletter - Monday, March 5, 2007</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">emoshuns.com provides emotional healthcare services in Manhattan, Brooklyn, and Long Island, as well as by telephone and e-mail nationwide. <a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/">See our web</a></span><a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/"><br /></a><span style="font-family:times new roman;"><a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/">site</a> or call us for more information.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;font-family:times new roman;" >Hi Everyone!</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">I hope this edition of our EmoshuNewsletter finds you well!</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">At the worst point in my life I had written a "good bye" note. In it I explained that the reason I was "leaving" was because I felt no one truly understood me. I felt as though no one cared about me or even bothered to listen to what I was trying to say. I felt frustrated, abandoned, isolated, completely and utterly alone and left with no alternative but to end it all.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">But somehow I didn't "leave" and thankfully ended up in an emotional healthcare setting instead. And while in treatment I was taught the single most important lesson in my life:</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">"<span style="font-weight: bold;">Understand Rather Than Be Understood</span>"</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">At first I struggled understanding this concept. I felt confused trying to figure out how I could possibly understand others if I didn't understand myself. I felt angry at the idea that it was somehow my responsibility to give others what they wouldn't give me. I felt scared at the thought of understanding that others truly didn't care. And I felt lost because I was sure I could never understand anything.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">But I was told by my counselors that life was not perfection...it was practice. </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">So I began to practice at trying to understand and practiced not trying to be understood. And lo and behold my life began to be transformed! I learned to listen closely to what people were saying. I worked hard at listening because listening is hard. I worked hard at clarifying what people told me. I worked hard at understanding not only what people said but also what people meant. I worked hard at helping people communicate with me and offered them an ear and made it clear that I cared what they had to say and understood how they were feeling.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">In this process magic happened. Not only was I able to develop an understanding of others, I was able to begin to develop a deeper understanding of myself. And this outsight into others and insight into myself have been the most rewarding gifts I have ever received.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">And finally, I received another gift in this process no less valuable. People began to understand me! And they did so because they trusted me. They trusted me because I gave them what they needed. Understanding! And because I understood, they began to seek me out. They felt trust in me because I truly cared and in turn they listened carefully to what I had to say. And through this interaction we both received what we needed.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">So in this issue of the EmoshuNewsletter I offer this advice to you:</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">"Understand Rather Than Be Understood"</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Until next time....</span><br /><a href="http://www.emoshuns.com"><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Frank</span></a><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;"> </span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">E-Mail: info@emoshuns.com </span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Web Site: www.emoshuns.com </span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Toll-Free: 888-WANNA TALK</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Emoshuns.com - "Look Better, Feel Better, Take Back Your Life!"</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Tell your family and friends about EmoshuNews!</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">To subscribe</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Send a blank message to: news-subscribe@emoshuns.com</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">To unsubscribe</span><br /><span style="font-family:times new roman;">Send a blank e-mail address to: news-unsubscribe@emoshuns.com</span><br /></span>emoshuns.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15172287407070200635noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6269314653606415601.post-46913602629861653512007-02-25T17:44:00.000-05:002007-02-25T17:53:52.314-05:00Men & Depression: Volume II Issue 6<p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us">Hi Everyone!</span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us">I hope this edition of our EmoshuNewsletter finds you well!</span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us">I read a front-page article titled<u> Men and Depression: Facing Darkness</u> in </span><a href="http://newsweek.msnbc.com/"><a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/17190411/site/newsweek/"><span lang="en-us"><u><span style="color:#0000ff;">Newsweek</span></u></span></a><span lang="en-us"></span></a><span lang="en-us">’s February 26<sup>th</sup> edition and I became very excited. Some of the points Julie Scelfo makes in her story is almost<i> exactly</i> the points I’m trying to get across with </span><a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/"><span lang="en-us"><u><span style="color:#0000ff;">emoshuns.com</span></u></span><span lang="en-us"></span></a><span lang="en-us">.</span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us">For instance, to paraphrase Ms. Scelfo: </span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us"><i>“Six million American men will be diagnosed with depression this year but millions more suffer silently unaware or unwilling to seek treatment…because men are reluctant to own up to mental illness. Instead of talking about their feelings, men may mask them with alcohol and/or drug abuse, gambling, anger, or workaholism. Men often view asking for help as an admission of weakness” </i></span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us">The very idea that men have to suffer with emotional healthcare issues because of embarrassment or shame or</span><a href="http://emoshuns.com/phpBB2/index.php"><span lang="en-us"><span style="color:#0000ff;"> stigma</span></span><span lang="en-us"></span></a><span lang="en-us"> drives me crazy. It’s ridicules, unnecessary, and can be painful, debilitating, and costly and, as Ms. Scelfo points out, deadly:</span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us"><i>“The result of this hidden epidemic of is destroyed marriages, disrupted careers, and a cost of billions in lost productivity. The strong silent type model of manhood is so deeply embedded in American men that many would rather kill themselves than seek help.”</i></span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us">Let me repeat that last sentence:</span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us"><b><i>Men Would Rather Kill Themselves Than Seek Help!</i></b></span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us">My </span><a href="http://emoshuns.com/team.php"><span lang="en-us"><u><span style="color:#0000ff;">team</span></u></span><span lang="en-us"></span></a><span lang="en-us"> and I would like to enlist your assistance in changing the way American men (and woman) feel about becoming and staying emotionally healthy. What we’re trying to do is create a paradigm shift in thinking and get people to understand that there is no shame in talking to a professional when you have an emotional health issue.</span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us">When my father was a kid no one would regularly see a physician. Today, because we understand the benefits of a regular check-up, we not only take care of our physical health we arm ourselves with knowledge so we can be informed when we visit our doctor.</span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us">When I was a kid no one, except “muscle heads” went to the gym. But today,<i> everyone</i> goes to the gym because we’ve discovered the benefits of regular cardio and weight training exercise. </span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us">Now, we have to get the word out that emotional healthcare is just as important and speaking to a professional will result in benefits in all areas of your life that are beyond your wildest dreams. Benefits that will impact your emotional health, physical health, relationships, career, education, and self-esteem, and benefits that will result in a happier life.</span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us">Always remember and spread the word…..</span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us"><b>“Feel Better, Look Better, Take Back Your Life!”</b></span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us">Until next time….</span></span></p> <p style="font-family: times new roman;" align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span lang="en-us">Frank</span></span></p>emoshuns.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15172287407070200635noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6269314653606415601.post-72882733468580882912007-02-08T06:34:00.000-05:002007-04-25T13:41:16.430-05:00Grief and Loss: Newsletter Volume II Issue 5<span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-size:12;">Hello Everyone,<o:p> </o:p></span></span> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-size:12;">I was deeply saddened this week when I received news that a close friend of mine lost his father in a tragic accident in <st1:place st="on"><st1:state st="on">Arizona</st1:state></st1:place>. Today I attended a memorial service for this man on the upper east side of <st1:place st="on"><st1:city st="on">Manhattan</st1:city></st1:place>. The service was dignified, relaxed, celebratory, and warm.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-size:12;">Throughout the afternoon people in attendance, both family and friends took turns saying a few words about this man in a showing of respect, and consideration for those present and those no longer here.<o:p> </o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-size:12;">What affected me most deeply was my friend’s simple yet elegant message to those in attendance….<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><b><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:12;" >“Let the depth of your emotions, strengthen your resolve”<o:p> </o:p></span></b></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-size:12;">So in returning to my office I thought I’d examine this thought and reflect on the meaning it has for me.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-size:12;">Since I was very young I have always had a depth of emotion. As a child, and even today as an adult, I cried and cry easily, laughed and laugh from my belly, felt and feel anger to the point of rage, and loved and love wholeheartedly and with complete and reckless abandon. And because of this characteristic, my life has been affected in countless ways.<o:p> </o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-size:12;">My angst has brought me to the point of despair, my humor has brought me great joy and, when not in check, great pain, my anger has brought me to places so terrible most people haven’t even had nightmares about, and my love has brought me ecstasy.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-size:12;">So today I felt great sadness. Sadness for a man whose life was cut short, sadness for the loved ones left behind, sadness for my friend for his loss, and sadness for myself in the remembrances of those close to me who have passed.<o:p> </o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-size:12;">But in this depth of emotion I find my own resolve. Resolve to continue to live, resolve to continue to teach and to learn, resolve to continue to nurture those in need, and resolve to live to the fullest in the all too short time allotted.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-size:12;">All of us face grief and loss in our lives at one time or another. And it is during that time we have a choice. We can become bitter and angry, isolated and alone, and tearful and disappointed. Or we can be gracious and understanding, supportive and passionate, loving and giving, and, as my friend so eloquently stated…<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><b><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:12;" >“Let the depth of your emotions, strengthen your resolve”<o:p></o:p></span></b></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-size:12;">Til next time,<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><a href="http://www.emoshuns.com"><span style="font-size:12;">Frank</span></a><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-size:12;"><o:p> </o:p><br />E-Mail: <a href="mailto:editor@emoshuns.com">editor@emoshuns.com</a> - Toll-Free: (800) 983-3050 - Web:<b><span style="font-weight: bold;"> <a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/" title="http://www.emoshuns.com/"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-weight: normal;">www.emoshuns.com</span></span></a></span></b><o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><b><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:12;" >Emoshuns.com - "Look Better, Feel Better, Take Back Your Life!"</span></b><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-size:12;">Tell your family and friends about <b><span style="font-weight: bold;">EmoshuNews</span></b>!<o:p></o:p></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><b><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:12;" >To subscribe</span></b>, send a blank message to: <b><span style="font-weight: bold;"><a href="mailto:news-subscribe@emoshuns.com" title="mailto:news-subscribe@emoshuns.com"><span class="apple-style-span"><span style="font-weight: normal;">news-subscribe@emoshuns.com</span></span></a></span></b><o:p></o:p></span></p> <span style="font-size:130%;"><span class="apple-style-span" style="font-family:times new roman;"><b><span style="font-weight: bold;font-size:12;" >To unsubscribe</span></b>, send a blank e-mail address to: news<a href="mailto:-unsubscribe@emoshuns.com" title="mailto:-unsubscribe@emoshuns.com">-unsubscribe@emoshuns.com</a></span><span style="font-family:times new roman;"> </span></span>emoshuns.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15172287407070200635noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6269314653606415601.post-30239678857632814322007-01-26T08:22:00.000-05:002007-04-25T13:41:55.662-05:00Emotional Health and Heart Attacks: Volume II Issue 4<div class="moz-text-html" lang="x-western"><div style="margin: 0px;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span><span style="font-size:130%;"><i style="font-family: times new roman;">Emotional Health and Heart Attacks</i></span></div><div style="margin: 0px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; min-height: 15px;font-family:times new roman;font-size:12px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span></div><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">Greetings,<br /><br /></span></div><p style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span></p><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">According to <a href="http://www.forbes.com/forbeslife/health/feeds/hscout/2007/01/15/hscout600926.html"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 33, 231);">Forbes.com</span></a>, an article in the January issue of the Mayo Clinic Women's HealthSource reports, "Depression, fear and anger are common reactions after a person has had a heart attack, and <i>emotional recovery is vital to a patient's health and well-being</i>." The article says, "heart attack survivors with depression are three times more likely to die of a future heart attack or other heart problems."</span></div><div style="margin: 0px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; min-height: 15px;font-family:times new roman;font-size:12px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span></div><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">Experts offer several suggestions to aid emotional recovery: 1) Discuss your feelings with doctors, family, and friends; 2) If you think you may be depressed, seek treatment; and, 3) Exercise, as directed by your doctor. Exercise may help relieve anxiety and depression.</span></div><div style="margin: 0px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; min-height: 15px;font-family:times new roman;font-size:12px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span></div><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">These suggestions should not be limited to heart attack survivors. We all deal with emotional challenges at various times in our life. When we're experiencing emotional challenges, it is particularly important that we share our feelings with trusted loved ones, seek support and assistance from experienced professionals (such as our team here at emoshuns.com), and take good care of our physical health by eating well and getting enough rest and exercise.</span></div><div style="margin: 0px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; min-height: 15px;font-family:times new roman;font-size:12px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span></div><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">The American Academy of Family Physicians offers additional advice:</span></div><div style="margin: 0px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; min-height: 15px;font-family:times new roman;font-size:12px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span></div><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span><a href="http://familydoctor.org/589.xml"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 33, 231);">Keeping Your Emotional Health</span></a> </span></div><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span><a href="http://familydoctor.org/782.xml"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 33, 231);">How Your Emotions Affect Your Health</span></a> </span></div><div style="margin: 0px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; min-height: 15px;font-family:times new roman;font-size:12px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span></div><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">At emoshuns.com, we listen very carefully to our clients. In response, we provide services and tools to help people overcome the emotional challenges - both ordinary and extraordinary - of everyday life. In addition to private consultation in our offices in Manhattan, Brooklyn, and Long Island, we also provide emotional healthcare services nationwide by telephone and e-mail.</span></div><div style="margin: 0px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; min-height: 15px;font-family:times new roman;font-size:12px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span></div><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">Wanna talk? Call now (see our number below), or <a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 33, 231);">visit our web site</span></a> for more information. </span></div><div style="margin: 0px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; min-height: 15px;font-family:times new roman;font-size:12px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span></div><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">Til next time,</span></div><div style="margin: 0px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; min-height: 15px;font-family:times new roman;font-size:12px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span></div><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><a href="http://www.emoshuns.com"><span style="font-size:130%;"> Frank</span></a></div><div style="margin: 0px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; min-height: 15px;font-family:times new roman;font-size:12px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span></div><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><a href="http://www.emoshuns.com"><span style="font-size:130%;">Frank Mannarino</span></a></div><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">Founder/Director</span></div><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">emoshuns.com</span></div><p style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span></p><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">E-Mail: <a href="mailto:editor@emoshuns.com"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 33, 231);">editor@emoshuns.com</span></a> - Toll-Free: (800) 983-3050 - Web Site: <a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 33, 231);">www.emoshuns.com</span></a> </span></div><p style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"> </span></p><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><b>Tell your family and friends about EmoshuNews!</b></span></div><div style="margin: 0px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; min-height: 15px;font-family:times new roman;font-size:12px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span></div><div style="margin: 0px;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>To subscribe, send a blank message to: <a href="mailto:news-subscribe@emoshuns.com"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 33, 231);">news-subscribe@emoshuns.com</span></a> </span></div><div style="margin: 0px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; min-height: 15px;font-family:times new roman;font-size:12px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span></div><div face="times new roman" style="margin: 0px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space: pre;"> </span>To unsubscribe, send a blank e-mail message to: <a href="mailto:news-unsubscribe@emoshuns.com"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(0, 33, 231);">news-unsubscribe.com</span></a> </span></div><div style="margin: 0px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; min-height: 15px;font-family:times new roman;font-size:12px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span></div><div face="times new roman" style="margin: 0px;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><b>Emoshuns.com - "Feel Better, Look Better, Take Back Your Life!"</b></span></div></div><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:times new roman;"></span></span>emoshuns.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15172287407070200635noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6269314653606415601.post-81733414446663040602007-01-21T14:15:00.000-05:002007-04-25T13:42:15.774-05:00Childhood Stress: Volume II Issue 3<span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" >Emoshuns.com provides emotional healthcare services in Manhattan, Brooklyn, and Long Island, as well as by telephone and e-mail nationwide. See our web site </span><a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/"><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" >http://www.emoshuns.com</span></a><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" > or call us for more information.<br /></span><br /><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" ><strong>Hello Everyone!</strong></span><br /><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" ></span><br /><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" >I read this recent article on-line today. It was published in the California based <a href="http://www.baycitynews.com/">Bay City News</a></span><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" > . </span><br /><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" ></span><br /><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" >To paraphrase: "A new survey suggests Bay Area parents are concerned about their children's emotional health above other potential worries such as weight, leisure activities or exposure to drugs or alcohol. </span><br /><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" ><br />Interviews with almost 1,800 parents of children up to age 17 in six Bay Area counties showed that almost three-quarters of parents interviewed rated their children's physical health as excellent, and just over half of the parents said the same of their emotional health.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);font-size:180%;" >Childhood and adolescent stress was the major concern for parents.</span></strong><br />I'm not surprised. I see it everyday in my office. <a href="http://emoshuns.com/phpBB2/index.php">Children and teens in the New York area are also struggling with the stresses</a></span><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" ><a href="http://emoshuns.com/phpBB2/index.php"> </a>of childhood and adolescence. Stress caused by schoolwork, personal and sexual identity, maturation, bullies, future career, everyday choices and decisions, separation and individuation, and so on and so on.</span><br /><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" ><br /><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);font-size:180%;" ><strong>So what's a parent to do?</strong></span><br />The answer is simple but the <a href="http://emoshuns.com/phpBB2/index.php">stigma</a></span><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" ><a href="http://emoshuns.com/phpBB2/index.php"> is crippling</a>.<br /></span><br /><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" >The Answer - <a href="http://emoshuns.com/about_frank.php">Seek counsel with of an emotional healthcare specialist</a> </span><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" >with child and/or adolescent expertise who your son or daughter can speak with. With the right person in their corner, an expert who can develop a therapeutic relationship with your child, the stress can be lessened or alleviated.<br /></span><br /><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" ><strong><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);font-size:180%;" >The Stigma</span></strong> - Just because a loved one sees a counselor doesn't mean he or she is "sick". It simply means you care enough to make sure they receive all the benefits available to them.<br />People, including parents and children, often separate physical health from emotional health. But you can't separate the two. If you have a broken leg you're going to be miserable. And both your broken leg and your misery should be treated.<br />If your child or teen is stressed, help them. If it's because of too much homework, get a tutor, if it's because of a bully, call the police, if it's because of a career choice, help them explore their possibilities, but no matter what, get some help. <a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/team.php">There are experts</a></span><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" > out there who are available. </span><br /><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" ><br /><a href="http://ewww.moshuns.com/"><span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);font-size:180%;" ><strong>Find one today</strong></span></a>.<br /><br />Until next time....<br /><a href="http://www.emoshuns.com">Frank</a><br /><br />E-Mail: </span><a href="mailto:info@emoshuns.com"><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" >info@emoshuns.com</span></a><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" > Web Site: </span><a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/"><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" >www.emoshuns.com</span></a><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" > </span><br /><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" >Toll-Free: 888-WANNA TALK</span><br /><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" ><br />Emoshuns.com - "Look Better, Feel Better, Take Back Your Life!"<br />Tell your family and friends about EmoshuNews!To subscribeSend a blank message to: </span><a href="mailto:news-subscribe@emoshuns.com"><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" >news-subscribe@emoshuns.com</span></a><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" >To unsubscribeSend a blank e-mail address to: </span><a href="mailto:news-unsubscribe@emoshuns.com"><span style=";font-family:times new roman;font-size:130%;" >news-unsubscribe@emoshuns.com</span></a>emoshuns.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15172287407070200635noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6269314653606415601.post-55042601845491248872007-01-14T16:29:00.000-05:002007-01-16T16:36:51.583-05:00"Tang of Cilantro" Newsletter: Volume II Issue 2<pre wrap="" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">Hello Everyone!<br /><br />I was sitting around this afternoon trying to get my thoughts together and decide on a topic for this issue of the <a href="http://emoshuns.com/newsletter/php">EmoshuNewsletter</a> when I glanced up and saw Olga, my girl and my best friend, sitting at the kitchen table having lunch. She was beaming from ear-to-ear and was obviously enjoying whatever it was she was eating. When I saw the smile on her face it warmed my heart and suddenly today's topic appeared. Joy! And both Olga and I are filled with it! She for the simple wonderful things in life, and me because of her.<br /><br />Last night we went out to New Jersey to play 5-cent poker with some friends. Because Olga could never visit empty-handed she whipped together a simple, elegant, Pico de Gallo (translation: beak of rooster). It's a simple salsa Olga makes with tomatoes, garlic, cilantro, onion and olive oil. And what a hit it makes! And as I expected last night, the card players loved it.<br /><br />So this afternoon Olga whipped up a batch for lunch. She made a cracker spread from the salsa and some tuna and presto, instant Joy.<br /><br />For far too long I missed out on the feeling of Joy but not anymore. Today, thanks to Olga being in my life I have come to understand and appreciate the simple things life has to offer. The sweetness of a tomato, the tang of cilantro, the crunch of a cracker, and the depth of love.<br /><br />Thanks Baby,<br />Frank<br /><br />Until next time....<br /><br /><br />E-Mail: <a class="moz-txt-link-abbreviated" href="mailto:info@emoshuns.com">info@emoshuns.com</a><br />Web Site: <a class="moz-txt-link-abbreviated" href="http://www.emoshuns.com/">www.emoshuns.com</a><br />Toll-Free: 888-WANNA TALK<br /><br />Emoshuns.com - "Look Better, Feel Better, Take Back Your Life!"<br /><br />Tell your family and friends about EmoshuNews!<br />To subscribe<br />Send a blank message to: <a class="moz-txt-link-abbreviated" href="mailto:news-subscribe@emoshuns.com">news-subscribe@emoshuns.com</a><br />To unsubscribe<br />Send a blank e-mail address to: <a class="moz-txt-link-abbreviated" href="mailto:news-unsubscribe@emoshuns.com">news-unsubscribe@emoshuns.com</a></span></pre>emoshuns.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15172287407070200635noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6269314653606415601.post-36238566410445926292007-01-02T19:57:00.000-05:002007-01-03T17:01:59.040-05:00"Resolutions Defined" Newsletter: Volume II Issue 1<span style=";font-family:Arial;font-size:130%;" > <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Happy New Year Everyone,</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">The New Year often brings with it “resolutions”.<span style=""> </span>Before I made my resolutions for 2007 I thought I’d:</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <ol style="margin-top: 0in;" type="A"><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">research exactly what a resolution is;</li><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">review prior resolutions;</li><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">review successes or failures;</li><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">think carefully about new ones for this year; and</li><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">put a plan of action together so this years promises to myself would be kept.<o:p> </o:p></li></ol> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Here’s the result of my contemplations.</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"> </p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-indent: 0.25in;">A.<span style=""> </span>From <a href="http://www.dictionary.com/">www.dictionary.com</a>:</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">RESOLVE</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">to come to a definite or earnest decision about; determine (to do something)</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span class="ital-inline"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span class="ital-inline"><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">RESOLUTION</span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">the act of resolving or determining upon an action or course of action, method, and procedure</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <ol style="margin-top: 0in;" start="2" type="A"><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">In my younger days my resolutions were repetitive.<span style=""> </span>Stop drinking, stop drugging, quit smoking, <a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/resources.php">lose weight</a>, make more money, and get healthier physically and emotionally.<span style=""> </span>All of these were admirable and doable but all of them took many, many years of trying before….<o:p> </o:p></li><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">In the late 80s it “worked”.<span style=""> </span>I entered treatment for my emotional health and everything else fell into place.<span style=""> </span>I stopped drinking and drugging, I began to feel less anxious and depressed, I stopped smoking cigarettes, I began to exercise and found <a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/resources.php">holistic herbs</a> and used both to lose weight and became physically healthy.</li><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">This year my resolve is to continue to take care of myself and strive to better take care of others.<span style=""> </span>I will continue to be involved in my own emotional healthcare and will continue my <a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/phpBB2/php">education</a> in order to better treat my clients.</li><li class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">My plan is simple.<span style=""> </span>Follow my heart, live well, do the next right thing, and stay happy.</li></ol> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">What are your resolutions?<span style=""> </span>Write them through the <a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/econtact.php">contact page</a> and let me know.</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Until next time,</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">Frank</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">E-Mail: <span class="390423021-02012007"><a href="mailto:frank@emoshuns.com">frank@emoshuns.com</a></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span>Toll-Free: (8<span class="390423021-02012007">88</span>) <span class="390423021-02012007">WANNA TALK</span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span><span>Web:<span class="390423021-02012007"> <a href="http://www.emoshuns.com/">www.emoshuns.com</a></span></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><b>Emoshuns.com - "Look Better, Feel Better, Take Back Your Life!"</b></p></span>emoshuns.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15172287407070200635noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6269314653606415601.post-34006648381924982892006-12-28T17:20:00.000-05:002007-04-25T13:43:11.235-05:00"Dealing with Anger" Newsletter: Volume I Issue 4EmoshuNews - Thursday, December 28, 2006<br /><br />DEALING WITH ANGER<br />By Daniel Cohen<br />Webmaster-emoshuns.com<br /><br />I read that Michael Richards, best known for playing the role of Kramer on the Seinfeld television program, is undergoing psychiatric counseling after a racial outburst at a comedy club. Richards says his outburst was fueled by anger and rage he didn't know he possessed, rather than from racial bigotry. he's quoted as saying, "I’m shattered by it. The way this came through me was like a freight train."<br /><br />With counseling, Richards wants to learn how to better manage his anger and to gain a level of understanding regarding what prompted his racial outburst.<br /><br />Earlier this year, when actor Mel Gibson was arrested for drunk driving, he lashed out at arresting officers with a series of hateful remarks he later said did not reflect his true feelings.<br /><br />When people get angry, they often say things they don't mean. what's more, many people don't know how angry they are until it comes out "like a freight train."<br /><br />Getting in touch with the depths of one's anger - however built-up and repressed - can help avoid, and deal with, problems in one's life. Frank Mannarino and the EMOSHUNS Team of emotional health care professionals has a proven track record of experience helping people deal with anger, resentment, humiliation, embarrassment, disappointment, and other strong emotions that challenge us to be as healthy and happy as we can be.<br /><br />In the week prior to the November elections, Senator John Kerry was asked to apologize to American troops for remarks he made during a speech. although he wasn't referring to the troops when he made the remarks others said were offensive, Kerry complied. in our current politically-correct, media-exaggerated world, we often hear people express outrage at remarks considered to be offensive in nature. such 'thin skins' remind me of the childhood adage, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me."<br /><br />When others make offensive remarks, we often react by getting defensive and, in so doing, say and do things we regret and do not mean. learning how to deal with offensive behavior with honest and appropriate responses, rather than regrettable behavior, enables you to "Feel Better and Take Back Your Life!" Frank Mannarino and the EMOSHUNS Team has a proven track record of experience helping extraordinary and everyday people do just that.<br /><br />Contact <a style="font-weight: bold;" href="http://www.emoshuns.com">Frank and his team</a> for more information:<br /><br />Web Site: <a title="http://www.emoshuns.com/" href="http://www.emoshuns.com/" target="_blank">http://www.emoshuns.com</a><br /><br />Phone:<br />1-888-WANNA TALK<br />(926-6282)<br /><br />Emoshuns.com - "Look Better, Feel Better, Take Back Your Life!"<br />Tell your family and friends about EmoshuNews!emoshuns.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15172287407070200635noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6269314653606415601.post-91363529783175194362006-12-17T10:42:00.000-05:002007-04-25T13:43:46.413-05:00"Character of Emotions" Newsletter: Volume I - Issue 3<pre wrap="" style="font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">Hello Everyone and Seasons Greetings,<br /><br />The holidays can bring many positive feelings. The feeling of Joy, of course, as well as the feelings of warmth, closeness, good cheer,generosity, faith, compassion, hope, and love.<br /><br />These feelings come because of the nature of what this season represents. The nature of birth, family, sharing, giving, peace, and love.<br /><br />Savor each as they come and spend as much time with them as you can. Feelings can change quickly and their arrival and departure are most often out of our control. But rest assured, another feeling or set of feelings are standing on line and ready and willing to come into your life.<br /><br />Such is the character of emotions. They change.<br /><br />During this time of year other, less positive feelings can arrive as well. The feelings of loneliness, despair, fear, grief, loss, sadness, depression, and anger. These feelings also come because of the nature of what this season represents. The nature of retail sales, financial concerns, the memories of loved ones no longer with us, and the sadness of winter.<br /><br />But rest assured, another feeling or set of feelings are standing on line and ready and willing to come into your life.<br /><br />Such is the character of emotions. They change.<br /><br />Without worry there can be no generosity, without sadness there can be no joy, without anger there can be no peace, and without loss there can be no love. To feel them all is to live.<br /><br />Happy Holidays,<br /><a style="font-weight: bold;" href="http://www.emoshuns.com">Frank</a><br /><br />PS: if your looking for an inexpensive, very cool gift for a friend, click on the resources <a class="moz-txt-link-rfc2396E" href="http://www.emoshuns.com/resources.php"><http:></http:></a> section of<br /><a class="moz-txt-link-abbreviated" href="http://www.emoshuns.com/">www.emoshuns.com</a> and send them an emoshuns.com T-Shirt or an Ambient Calm CD. I'll be sure to get it to them on time!<br /><br />E-Mail: <a class="moz-txt-link-abbreviated" href="mailto:info@emoshuns.com">info@emoshuns.com</a><br />Web Site: <a class="moz-txt-link-abbreviated" href="http://www.emoshuns.com/">www.emoshuns.com</a><br />Toll-Free: 888-WANNA TALK<br /><br />Emoshuns.com - "Look Better, Feel Better, Take Back Your Life!"<br /><br />Tell your family and friends about the EmoshuNewsletter!<br /><br />To subscribe<br />Send a blank message to: <a class="moz-txt-link-abbreviated" href="mailto:news-subscribe@emoshuns.com">news-subscribe@emoshuns.com</a><br /><br />To unsubscribe<br />Send a blank e-mail address to: <a class="moz-txt-link-abbreviated" href="mailto:news-unsubscribe@emoshuns.com">news-unsubscribe@emoshuns.</a></span></pre><span style="font-size:130%;"><span style="font-family:times new roman;"> </span></span>emoshuns.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15172287407070200635noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6269314653606415601.post-43390280860631284082006-12-16T10:39:00.000-05:002007-04-25T13:42:41.147-05:00"Why We Worry" Newsletter: Volume I - Issue 2<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">I read an extremely informative article on the train this morning (“Why we worry about the things we shouldn’t…and ignore the things we should” - Time, December 4, 2006).</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">In the article the author, Jeffrey Kluger, makes a number of very interesting observations.<span style=""> </span>One observation in particular struck a chord with me.<br /><br /></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">To paraphrase:</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><b style=""><span style=""> </span>“Drinking and drugs confer certain benefits because the gratification is immediate and the penalty comes later.<span style=""> </span>With enough time and enough temptation we can talk ourselves into anything ignoring almost any long-term costs.<span style=""> </span>These things can be fun but they can be lethal.” <o:p></o:p></b></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">Lethal!<span style=""> </span>In other words they can kill you.<span style=""> </span>And they do kill.<span style=""> </span>In my personal life I’ve had over 60 friends and acquaintances die directly because of their use of alcohol or drugs, and in my professional life far more.<span style=""> </span>And interestingly, every one of them started using substances innocently.<span style=""> </span>And just as Jeffrey Kluger observes, it was the short-term gratification that created the long-term consequences.<br /><br /></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">If you find yourself caught up in the short-term gratification of substance use, stop for a minute!<span style=""> </span>Take a hard look at where you could possibly be headed and weigh the risks versus the rewards.<span style=""> </span>Long-term drug and alcohol use can affect your career, your education, your finances, and your friendships.<span style=""> </span>It can lead to a loss of your freedom, your family and affect your physical health.<span style=""> </span>Ultimately it will affect your emotional health and eventually it could kill you.<br /><br /></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><o:p> </o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;">All this for a buzz?<span style=""> </span>Somehow I don’t think the benefits outweigh the consequences.<span style=""> </span>Do you?<br /><br /></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;font-family:times new roman;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><o:p> 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Today's issue of EmoshuNews is about embracing our feelings and emotions.</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">At 5 o'clock this morning, before the sun came up, I got up, took my supplements, and sat in the kitchen with a cup of coffee. I turned off the lights and looked at the early morning sky and embraced my feeling of loneliness.<br /><br /></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span class="apple-style-span">Embracing an emotion, regardless of what that emotion is, is something I have learned to do through my own emotional healthcare work. As a younger, less emotionally healthy person, <i>changing</i> the way I was feeling, or <i>denying</i> my emotions, was my habit. Today, things are different. Through tools I was offered by emotional healthcare specialists, and with the help of family and friends, I have come to understand that I am an emotional being and that sitting with my feelings and enjoying the moment is a wonderful experience.<br /><br /></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">So, there I sat, in the dark, enjoying my loneliness.</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span class="apple-style-span">But, how can one <i>enjoy</i> loneliness?</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span class="apple-style-span">For me, <i>loneliness</i> is not the state of being alone because I share my life with people who are very close to me. Family, close friends, colleagues, and acquaintances fill my life with love and companionship. For me, <i>loneliness</i> is an inner sense, an inner feeling that is a part of my very character, my very core that has been with me for as long as I can remember. It is a feeling I get that allows me to <i>feel</i> alone even in a crowd.</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">And, therefore, because it is a part of me, and here to stay, I have learned to respect my loneliness, welcome my loneliness, and enjoy the moments we share.</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">For more about embracing your emotions and coping with loneliness, use the contact information below. 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